Have you ever been out on a date, and you just can’t tell how it’s going? “Is she into me?” is a question that keeps on spinning in your head. You want to believe that you’re doing everything right, but you’re just uncertain about how she feels about you. There are some signs that will reassure you that your date is working out for you. You just need to pay attention to them.

Being self-aware during your dates will give you that peace of mind to feel like it’s not going as bad as it seems. If a woman really digs you, she will give you subtle clues. It’s your job to pay attention to them, and not be so delusional when it comes to your dates.

1. She leans into you during conversation

If she leans into you while you’re talking with her during the date, this is a good sign. It shows you that she cares about the conversation, and she’s giving undivided attention to you. Pay attention to her body language and nonverbal communication. Is she looking interested in what you’re telling her, or is she spacing out, looking around the room at other men, or perhaps rolling her eyes a bit? If she’s leaning into you and really listening and showing you emotional empathy, things are working for you — for now.

2. She laughs at your silly jokes

Maybe you’re really not that funny, but you crack these silly and stupid jokes anyway… Then she laughs! She loves them! This is another good sign while you’re dating. If you’re witty and funny, and she digs it, you’re on the right track. If you crack a joke, and she glares at you with a little sarcastic smile, maybe you should go home early. When you get a woman to laugh, and get comfortable with you, you are doing things right.

3. She’s flipping her hair and batting her eyes at you

Women will give you little subtle gestures when they find you attractive, like flipping their hair or batting their eyes at you. Does she look like she’s interested in your conversation during the date? Is she giving you the love gaze, and are her eyes lighting up? Does she lean into you as you’re walking, or give you subtle hints about her favorite places, and tell you what she enjoys doing? These are all good signs for you, and if, on the other hand, she’s looking at you like she doesn’t really care to be there, you have a problematic date on your hands. The best thing to do in this situation, is be a polite gentleman, pick up the check, and escort her out. Don’t bother going in for a kiss, because she’s just not that into you.

4. She asks you about future plans

If she asks you, “Whatcha doing next weekend?” this is showing interest. If she gives you the common, “We’ll keep in touch,” she probably won’t. Women will engage you if their interest level is high in you. If it’s not, they won’t follow-up with you or ask you about any future plans. A counteroffer is also a good sign. For instance, you ask her out on Friday, but she has plans with her friends, and offers to go out with you Saturday instead. A woman who is interested in you will counteroffer. If you’re really quiet, she’ll also text you to see how you’re doing out of genuine concern. If a woman doesn’t care about you, they won’t care if they maintain a connection with you, or if you’re in her life.

5. She texts you frequently

If a woman is into you, she’ll text you frequently. Or if you text her, she’ll always respond. A successful date will want to maintain a connection with you. She’ll never be ‘too busy’ for you, and she’ll always make time for you, because you’re important to her, and she doesn’t want to lose you.

These are the 5 telltale signs that your date is working out for you. You can look for these signs while you’re out on your dates, and it will be a giveaway, so you won’t wonder “Is she into me?” and you won’t be in the dark. As long as you pay attention to her body language and visual cues, you can make a judgement or go with your intuitive senses before you head in for that first kiss. Never ask a woman if you can kiss her… Just go for it, and enjoy the sparks and chemistry. If she gives you the cheek, move on. There are other woman out there who will appreciate you.